The parent launch team at Colonial Elementary has generously shared their experiences, progress, and success stories. Here are a few that might prove to be inspirational and useful to you and your family in implementing START.
Progress in Transferring Responsibility
“I have given my daughter more responsibility and discussed together the why. Snow day the other day and Isla baked cupcakes on her own. This is a task I would have micromanaged but instead saw the value of letting her try on her own!
One funny story and this happened right after our last session, I was low on snacks and made her miss the school ice cream social due to our right schedule. After the session I took her to the convenience store (in the last I would have just gone if in a similar situation), gave her 5 bucks and had her shop solo for her and her brother. I sat in the car and watched from the window! She was proud as was I!”
Progress in discussing values, transferring responsibility, and being more intentional about screen time.
"I think the biggest recent take away from this book and activities is that our family has never discussed what we value as a family and what each of us value individually. Having that discussion one night at dinner was interesting and insightful.
At this point, I (as the Mom) have realized that I need to allow my children to do more things they can do on their own, even if it takes longer. In other words, it's "easier and quicker" if I just do it. But I realize now that it was not teaching my kids to be responsible on their own.
The biggest obstacle for my oldest son is that he kept "forgetting" to pack materials home and school. We are implementing a check list at home where he packs his own bag. My youngest son started to pack his own lunch because he knows what should be inside and gets to choose his own snack.
We have implemented no more screen or TV during the week with limited time on the weekends, where they must do helpful things around the house to earn IPad time. This has made them feel more accomplished in helping the household as well as feeling as if they worked towards a reward they wanted.
This also includes less "screen time" for us as parents. I have found that working or leisurely being on our phone has led to irritation from being interrupted by the kids, even if what they are asking is valid. I have voiced this issue to my husband and we have made changes to decrease our own screen time and be more present in whatever we are doing."