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August 10, 2019

 The Big Idea

More research confirming that both punishment and reward kill initiative, self-direction, and drive. We all want our kids to show initiative - and we do whatever it takes to let them know we’re serious: take away privileges, pile on privileges, direct, lec...

May 1, 2019

The Big Idea

Chances are, your kids’ lives are filled to overflowing with required activities – most of which are directed by an adult, most of which require the kind of conformity and rule following that stifle the development of the skills kids need, including creativ...

March 17, 2019

The Big Idea

So much has been said about the college admissions scandals this past month (March 2019). While it’s shocking to see the lengths to which some parents with means will go and the lines over which they will willingly cross, it’s not surprising. The prevailing...

 From the parent of teenage kids

“I’ve watched the START TEDx talk, read the book, and am excited to implement the leadership approach in my family. What's the best strategy to do this with older kids? Mine are showing signs of resistance.”  


February 10, 2019

The Big Idea


Of the 10 Leadership skills kids need to master before they leave home, almost all emerge and develop more fully when we step back with regularity and let them navigate for themselves.  Tons of research confirm that when we give our kids time and spa...

August 13, 2018

The Big Idea: Leadership tends to be defined narrowly, if we think to define it at all. But in fact, leadership, in the way it is defined most recently in research, academia, and business is broad, inclusive, and nuanced, and we have the opportunity every day to model,...

The Big Idea

In their HBR article Leadership Takes Self Control, Professors Yam, Lian, Ferris and Brown report the profoundly positive impact self control has on leadership at work when it’s present - and the negative impact it has when it’s absent.

These findings are d...

June 6, 2017

The Big Idea

Intrinsically motivated and emotionally intelligent kids demonstrate more meaningful and engaged behaviors at school, at home, and ultimately at work when compared to the extrinsically motivated kids for whom behaving, performing and achieving to build a ré...

April 26, 2017

In October, I'll be speaking at The Haverford School, Best for Boys Speaker Series on the specific steps parents can take to best prepare kids to Lead Well, Be Well, and Do Well in today's increasingly competitive and rapidly changing world.

The event is free...

March 24, 2017

The Big Idea

For many, school breaks offer time off or away with your kids. The slower pace and the time away offers an environment conducive to reflection, discovery, and thoughtful decision making. It offers a chance to escape the day to day pressures of performance a...

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